One of the carers said, to anyone who could hear her, "I'm not in the mood for THIS today".
She is a new recruit and totally needed the piss taking out of her.
"maybe you need a new career, luv. Cos i have to put up with this everyday." I said.
If looks could kill she'd be on a murder charge right now.
She was brought right down to earth, though. Where she belongs to be. Not every carer has the ability to smile. Some take things much too seriously.

I NEVER take things too seriously. It's the only time i get to have a laugh. Well that isn't strictly true. I laugh when someone says "no worries" or "to be honest". It's just my sense of humour. "No worries" is a way of saying "it's okay". "to be honest" is so ridiculous. I mean, aren't you ALWAYS honest?
I hate it when the carers whisper. They do it for a reason and if they feel they HAVE to whisper they should go to another room and do it there instead.

They really get on my nerves when they don't think we count enough to have an opinion about anything.
They just do what they want and never ask if we mind. why should they ask? We're only disabled. If you thought you could rely on the carers, you can think again. A lot of the time you're stuck on your own to fight your own battles. That's just the way it is.
Not all carers are the same. I'm sorry for giving you that impression. Some are really to be admired. Asking anything of them is never enough. They really ARE stars and we should always remember that.

It's really hard to think that i'll finish my life in this condition, but i don't let it worry me. I never have done.
Looking ahead, the queen can't have much time left before she says good-bye to this world. I didn't mean that to sound disrespectful even though it sonds as if i did. As to the future of blogging it too must have a bit of a dwindling life-span. Who knows what will happen?

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  1. I think it's that way in most professions. My brother was a CNA (Certified nurses assistant) and worked in a hospital for a while before becoming a paramedic. He'd tell us of some of the other CNA's and nurses that were very gruff and some were very nice and caring.

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  2. Some of them make me cry with laughter and are brilliant to be around. They really are. It's true. It's like you'd expect anywhere.😯 That image looks so like my son.

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  3. Care givers shouldn't be grumpy, they should be caring. I'm not sure what a grumping career is but I'm sure there can't be too much demand for it.

    You're right, grumpy care givers should find another career. I think maybe a career like digging ditches with a shovel. Maybe I'm too harsh but I think that care givers have a great role to play and should be caring for the wellbeing of the person in their charge with respect, compassion and patience.

    I hope that you're having a great day.
    Julia

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    1. Thanks Julia,

      I shouldn't lose my cool so easily with people when they only want to help. It was just meant as an off-the-cuff remark she made which I responded to. I'm like that at times.

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  4. You know, we all have bad days. I know I do. But when I pick up that phone to speak with a client even though in my head I'm thinking, "Oh gosh...now what? I don't have time for this crap!" I always have a smile on my face because you can hear a smile, especially on the phone. It's true, we all have bad days, but we are being paid to be caring...in your caregivers job and me to be professional. You may have made a remark that smarted at the time, but maybe it will make her stop and think the next time she is in a bad mood, especially if she is new.

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    1. I've given her a second chance because she deserves it. (That's really big of me I know).

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  5. The future of blogging dwindling away.....noooooooo......I'd go out of my mind without this outlet. Yes, our dear old Queen is getting on isn't she? She's been grand. I'm not looking forward to Charles as monarch.
    I'm with you on 'the whisperers'. There is no place for that. Not in a care home, not anywhere. I used to tell them at work, if you can't say it any louder than a whisper, then maybe you shouldn't be saying it at all...hmmmm? As to the new girl...I hope she straightens out.

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    1. Hi Delores, good comments. I had a look at Diane's blog like you suggested I should. It was great to read it. I'd be sorry to see the end of blogging myself, but who knows what will happen? It could be anything.

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  6. We all have bad days. Thank you for giving her another chance. I hope she takes advantage of the learning opportunity.
    Love Delores' comment about whisperers.

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  7. She could turn out to be the best yet. Who knows? Does a one-legged duck swim in circles?
    I had to laugh at Tara who suggested my room was the best place to get some peace and quiet. I said 'at least you get to turn off your hearing aid when you want some peace and quiet'

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  8. I saw so much extensive - and extended - suffering among the residents at Dad's nursing home. There was a period of time during his stay there when I debated seriously with myself about whether it would be easier to face the end of life by driving in front of a large truck or by living out to the end of life naturally (which usually ends poorly for most people). I concluded that even if it was easier on the person who died, it would be hard on everyone else, from family to first responders to the truck driver. Not many people are lucky enough to go to bed whole and relatively healthy and then die in their sleep. Most of us are going to suffer decline before our deaths; it's mostly a matter of how much decline and for how long. Yikes, this sounds morbid! I hope you understand what I mean.

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    1. Such wise words! You really know what you're talking about.

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  9. And I didn't really address your main point, which was that caregiving is an important job and whiners shouldn't be in it -- which I completely agree with :)

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    1. I'm glad you agree with it. A barmaid wouldn't tell me to piss off. (Not if she wanted me to go back there) if they knew what we had to put with they be more sympathetic. Not that I want any sympathy.

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  10. I hope it was just a bad day on her part. That's understandable. It takes a lot of patience and compassion to care for others and we should remind ourselves that one day we may need that care, as well.

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    1. We had plenty of patients in hospital. Jenny, you understand what it's like to be me.

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  11. A good carer is worth her or his weight in gold. We need good carers more than we need investment bankers and hedge fund managers. I guess that because salaries in the care sector are so low we often end up with carers whose hearts are not in the job - perhaps like the new carer you mentioned in this post. A good carer will always show respect towards the human beings they have been allocated.

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    1. Like you say, a good carer is so important to have.

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  12. Hi Treey :) I've seen lousy caregivers first hand when my grandmas was in a long-term care facility after suffering a stroke. He couldn't speak or walk, and didn't remember us or my grandpa...but he was there every day to make sure she had some kind of loving care.

    I can admit that I would never have it in me to be a caregiver. I just don't think I could do it emotionally if that makes sense. On a completely different level, I cared 24/7 for my very sick dog for the last 4 months of his life. It was a full time job helping him while we tried to figure out if he could improve with medicine or a different treatment. The love was there, because he was like my little fur-son, but it wore me down. I think that the idea of grumbling care-givers finding some other line of work is a smart one. But I guess it wouldn't go over too well if you subtly mentioned it to them!

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    1. At least you cared for your dog. You obviously know what you're talking about.

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