Cancer can be a real scare...
I remember hearing about David's cancer and how helpless i felt.
David, my youngest brother, is the kind of guy who could live with having a stroke. That's how tough he is. You could say to him "hey Dave, look after this stroke for me for 10 minutes, will you?" and he'd say "ok then" and he'd do it. No problem. Having to do chemotherapy for 8 months is a different thing though. You lose your hair, your appetite and you feel tired all the while. It takes a lot of time to do and it's time you could spend down the pub.
i remember him coming home from the army. His eyes were black and blue. He'd beaten everybody at boxing but didn't want anyone to know. It was his business. He doesn't have a wife but he has a son that he loves to bits. He doesn't have much to do with mum. I don't know why. He lives his life as if he's Clint Eastwood in 'High Plains Drifter'. I see very little of him and i bet he's tried to keep his cancer treatment a secret. That's the way he is. I still remember a 10 year-old kid with that cheeky smile on his face just trying to convince everyone, for the past thirty years, that he bears a resemblance to Tom Cruise.
Since i had the stroke, i've seen very little of him. This stroke has that effect on most relationships. I start to think about Dave. He hasn't smoked in his entire life and that leads me to believe that i may have seen the last of him that i'll ever see. I hope that's not the case. I don't think grief is something i can handle right now. I wish i'd known what was going to happen to me and when. I could have time to sort my life out, then. Things always happen when you least expect them to.
Having the stroke has been devastating for me. It could happen to anybody in the future. Make sure it isn't you. When i was younger i wouldn't have taken any advice as seriously as i should. Give up smoking and cut down on your salt intake. Go to the doctor's and get your blood pressure checked out. This post is to do with cancer and there's not much you can do about that. Having a stroke is something you can do to prevent it happening to you, though.