There's a discrimination against the disabled that no-one talks about and only the disabled will see as being there. It's called 'exclusion' and no law will ever change it. Only people's attitudes will change it. People's thoughts of the disabled and whether they accept them or not is something we can't change by creating a law about it. Ignoring the disabled and pretending they're not there is something that goes on everyday. It's only when you become disabled that you recognise it. Some people accept the disabled. Some don't.
Only now do blacks and gays get the kind of laws that give them a new freedom. It's been a long time coming. You can't change the way that people feel though. In blogging terms they are ignored. You find an excuse to never visit their site. It's a silent discrimination..
Not everyone regards the disabled this way. They're accepted as a part of the community and their disability is not seen as a problem. Why should being black or gay ever be seen as being a problem?
I can't talk for the blacks or gays but i can speak for the disabled.
My messge to the disablrd coming onto blogger is this: keep your disability a secret!
I'll keep this post here so that people know why i've lost my appetite for posting any more blogposts.
The biggest mistake i did was to tell people the truth.
Some people in blog world have ignored me and I rarely talk of my disability. Some people just have bad manners or dont care, why would you let them take away your enjoyment of blogging?
ReplyDeletetake care, Terry
I'll carry on. They want me to quit, but I won let them win.
DeleteSorry you feel that way. Take good care.
ReplyDeleteThank you. Love love, Andrew. Bye.
Don't be so quick to write me off.
DeleteTreey, I 'm surprised that you regret letting followers know that you have a disability. I know that it must be disheartening some days about having people ignore you. I do have physical limitation although I don't have a physical disability and I've been ignored many, many time on my blog by people I thought were good blogger friends. Yes, it hurts but if we let the negative minded win then we loose the good one. There are weeds in every garden.
ReplyDeleteI soon realized that not every one shares my interests or like me or my post. Those who care , stay with me and are glad to cheer me on but the others I let go... Broken people have mental blocks that prevents from accepting people who have different taste, customs, or color etc... It's their problem. I have enough problems of my own.
There are enough of the others who enjoy your blog and I'm one of them. It takes time to built up your followers and it takes perseverance. It always brightens my day to read a post from you. I don't blog often because of my lack of spare time but I read my followers post and try to leave positive comments. I would be sad if stopped blogging.
I have received a lot of support when I was down and it reenforced my belief that there are a lot of caring people out there in bloggersphere.
I'm delighted that you read some of my older posts.
Years ago, I was told to not make decisions when I felt down because I would most likely make a wrong choice. It's best to take a wee break from blogging when you're down than to quit when the going gets tough.
Looking forward to your next post.
Hugs, Julia
Thanks Julia, I'll continue to post. The people who ignore me won't win and it's the best thing to do.
DeleteI've only been reading your blog for 2 or 3 weeks, having only just come across your writings, in fact I have no idea how I found you, just bumbled myself into your blog somehow. I've enjoyed meeting you and hearing about your life. But I'm sad that you think people don't want to communicate with you because of a disability, that's not right at all. Whether you are disabled or not makes no difference, lets just talk, and write, and blog etc etc.
ReplyDeleteThanks. I've decided to do a few more blogposts. I don't care if people ignore what I do. It's their choice. It's my choice to ignore them.
DeleteNo one will ever change an attitude until they learn more about the situation. By being disabled and blogging, you help the whole community to interact through ideas and that creates understanding. So you have to decide, is your blog about disability or is it about you, a person who happens to have a disability and is brave enough not to hide it from others? Personally, I love reading about how you are able to relate to the world despite the problems you face. I also like hearing you "pop off" when you get mad at something. Too many people hide their emotions. It's time we push through and keep going. Most people think "If I could change one person's attitude..." Well, just start counting up how many people are saying they're glad they're learning from you! You're a huge success in my book and I'm truly sad to not be able to look forward to another post from you.
ReplyDeleteIt's about me and my disability and making sure the disabled have somebody who will represent them. From time to time I will write about things that I think will interest people.
DeleteFor me at least, the fact that you're disabled and are talking about it is a good thing but I don't see people ignoring the fact that you're disabled. People are coming, commenting and enjoying your blog posts. I hope that whatever has made you feel that way is something that you can get past and come back to blogging.
ReplyDeleteEverybody who feels let-down by society will understand my anger, Mary. I just ask myself why. Why is this happening?
DeleteI'm wondering what has happened to make you take this decision, because it seems so sudden. Perhaps you have been thinking about it for awhile, though.
ReplyDeleteBut I think Julia made a good point about not making decisions when you are feeling down. Maybe have a break instead?
In general, I agree with you; you can't make a law about anything that will make people change their minds. But minds can be changed through contact with real people who show they are more than what you see on the surface, whether it's skin colour, sexual orientation, or disability. You have been helping educate people not just with your posts on strokes and keeping healthy, but by talking about yourself as anyone else would talk about themselves. You show people that you are just like them, with thoughts, opinions, hopes, a past, present and future.
I do hope you continue blogging - or break and then come back. Wishing you all the best, my friend.
I HAVE been feeling it for a while. Why anybody would discriminate against another person is wrong I think, but why should I let them beat me. What I do is important to me. Other people deserve to read what they want. If they DON'T want to read it it's their choice to make.
DeleteHi Terry, I'm sorry to read this post. I really relate to your post more than you know. My disability isn't obvious but it's there and I talk about it. I've gotten to the point where I feel that if people don't like what I'm reading, screw them. I hope you reconsider, I like your blog posts!! xx
ReplyDeleteDon't worry, Rain. You can read the posts to your cheeses
DeleteIf you want.
***should have written "if people don't like what I'm WRITING"...sorry for the error!
ReplyDeletePlease don't give up blogging Terry! Perhaps just have a little break. The very fact that you have participated in blogging has been a good way of educating people like me so that we adjust and improve our attitudes towards disabled folk. I admire your fighting spirit. Please don't give up.
ReplyDeleteThank you YP. I know it is in the best interests of the disabled if I continue posting the crap that I do.
DeleteIt's not crap you daft bugger!
DeleteThanks.
DeleteOh Terry. I feel your pain. I share some of your pain - and hope that you won't give up blogging. We have a lot to learn from you (all of us whether we admit to a disability or not). If you do give up you will be missed - but I hope that life treats you more kindly than it has.
ReplyDeleteEC, thanks for always being there. Whatever I write about you have been the perfect sounding board and I owe it to you to explain how my wheelchair works.
DeleteWhy would anyone not come to your blog because you are disabled? In fact I find it makes you much more interesting.
ReplyDeleteYou know a lot of people come to my blog and avoid it because they see all the caps and the bling and assume I'm a bit of a Chav and just go.
Some people have no time for me when they know what i am. I'm as popular as a lack Man at a Ku Klux Klux convention. I just thought it was wrong to discriminate like that.
DeleteKeep writing Treey. Tell us about your life, your difficulties. Let us know the worst. You're letting me into a world that I can only understand through your eyes, your experiences.
ReplyDeleteYou're a good writer, and you say it does you good to blog. We'll keep on blogging!
I'll keep writing then. I won't worry about what anyone else thinks. I don't, normally.
DeleteOh Treey, I'm sorry to read this.
ReplyDeleteI do hope that you will not be giving up your blogging.
Thinking of you and sending my good wishes.
All the best Jan
Thanks Jan.d
DeleteI'm very sorry to read this! I don't know who made you feel this way, but I want you to know that I've really enjoyed visiting your blog and I've really appreciated you visiting mine. I do hope you continue to blog. You have something to say and you should say it.
ReplyDeleteHey Martha, it took me a while to realise it. You have to be disabled to know . I don't want to make a big deal of it. I just felt that blogging was pointless because it was like a closed shop.
DeleteHi Treey, I'm so glad that you are a warrior for the disabled. What doesn't kill you makes you stronger. Being disable can happen to anyone. We must never forget that.
ReplyDeleteGo man go.
Hugs, Julia
Thanks Julia. People can exclude me if they want their own little club.
ReplyDeleteHave you noticed that your readership is growing? You planted a seed now watch that seed grow to a strong tree. You're picking up speed...
ReplyDeleteAs far as I'm concerned, that little club is pitiful.
Hugs, Julia
Hi Julia, being disabled as I am I'm sure I'm not the only one writing about it. I hope not,anyway.
DeleteI'm glad you re-thought the situation, Terry. Your point of view is valuable and your posts are interesting. I've posted comments on lots of blogs over time where I got no answer or very very few compared to the comments I left. I prefer to have interaction with the bloggers I read and with the readers who comment on my blog, and I tend to stick with a small-ish group because otherwise I feel stressed and stretched too thinly. It depends on how much time a person has available on the computer, too, I suppose. Anyway, don't let "them" (whoever they may be) keep you from doing something you enjoy.
ReplyDeleteHi Jenny. You have to be disabled to know what I'm talking about. You're obviously somebody who doesn't bother about whether a person is different to you or not. How Obama ever became President is a miracle when you consider he obstacles he faced. He never gave up when it would have been easier to do so.
DeleteI am also glad you have reconsidered. Your very individual voice is irreplaceable.
ReplyDeleteThanks. I remember being a Labour Party lealef deliver to a Conservative area. That was tough. When they started to chase me is when I became worried.
ReplyDeleteI honestly don't think that people can understand the plight of someone else unless they too walk in those shoes, or sit in that wheelchair.
ReplyDeleteWe are all discriminated against and not always because of malfeasance or hatred, but mainly because of ignorance. We only know what we know.
It's happened to me as a woman, as a single mother, as someone of Hispanic heritage, as someone short of stature, now as someone past the age of 50, as someone that doesn't move as fast as they did when they were 20.
Before you became disabled Treey, did you concern yourself with the plight of the disabled? I'm not saying that to be mean, but simply to say that it is very hard for people to understand what being disabled means and not everyone is ignoring it because they are being uncaring, some people are just ignorant of what it means to you.
Before I became disabled I never knew what it meant. I firmly believe that to know what t go through now, you have to be disabled.
ReplyDeleteExactly, so you can't expect people to change their view and their ignorance without educating them. And that is what you are doing. You are the voice of the disabled and you have a platform on this blog to educate people, to bring them out of the ignorance. Some will take what you say to heart and maybe treat disabled people with more tolerance and acceptance. Some will ignore you or belittle you...you can't change those people. But if you help even one person with your own personal stories of your disability then you've made something positive out of it.
DeleteOk, thanks.
DeleteFor me at least, the fact that you're disabled and are talking about it is a good thing but I don't see people ignoring the fact that you're disabled.
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They don't ignore that fact. If only they did.
ReplyDeleteMy grandson was born without his left hand . He's 6 years old and gets upset when people does thing for him because he's so independent. He was fitted with a special little paddle hand to swim and another one to ride his bike. Most of the time he doesn't wear an artificial limb, it takes him a little longer to get dress and do things that others do quickly but he manages. He was a kid spokesman for the War Amp Champs at his school and did amazing. The War Amps helps amputee kids with artificial limbs and they pay for the expensive devices , they have camps each year to help kids fit in society and it's helping my grandson to be proud of himself.
ReplyDeleteOf course, he was born without a hand but a lot of kids of all ages looses their limbs in accidents and they have to adjust. War Amps is a great program for kids.
Hugs, Julia
His condition would make no difference to me wxcept that I would respect him more.
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