Saturday, August 5, 2017

The sound of anything but silence...


There's something about the care home on Mount Road that makes me mad to live there. It's just this: where the hell do you go if you want to find some peace and quiet? The answer is there is none ANYWHERE. There should be, but there isn't. Living there is like having a barrage of constant noise thrown at you from all sides. It's a noise that will eventually drive you fucking mad if you let it. You sit in your room and all you hear is rock and roll music. You sit on the balcony and all you hear is rock and roll. You sit in the lounge and all you hear is the television. They leave the dining room empty for Y and. after five minutes you've really had enough. We need a quiet room where there is no noise at all.

If next-door doesn't have his radio on full blast, he normally does an impression (really loudly) of what it would sound like if the Concorde came in to land. Then he noisily spits at a bird. The bird runs for cover as if he's facing a showdown with Clint Eastwood in one of those old spaghetti westerns that you see on tv.

Then there's the noise that comes from X's room, a noise that is so loud you can literally feel the earth move beneath your feet. It's like the noise you get from a pneumatic drilland it only gets turned off at at 1.30 when she has her lunch. That's what it feels like to be me. People often wonder why i twitch like i do. That's the reason i give them.

The sound is almost deafening and you have to put up with it on a daily basis. They wonder why you don't like noise. It's a part of everyday life, isn't it? I mean, reading a book is so wrong and the amount of stress you get is unbearable. But no-one does anything because it would affect the rights of those that make the noise in the first place.

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  1. I am so sorry. Silence (at least from man-made noises) is an essential for my sanity. Ear plugs? I know they are a poor substitute but they might help a little.

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  2. Please. Don't apologise for them.

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  3. The house I live in now is very quiet most of the time, except when the lads in the nearby house are having a late-night garden party. I used to live in apartment blocks and they were seldom quiet. There was always someone playing loud music or drilling or shouting. Peace and quiet is hard to find these days. A lot of people actively dislike silence and have to fill it with noise of some kind. Sorry to hear you're exposed to so many noise-lovers.

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    1. It's a fact that some people dislike silence, but what does it say about them? Silence is something is something to be cherished in a place like this.

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  4. Man, that sounds like pure mental torture like they used in Nazi camps.
    I for one, love silence. I don't mean silence all the time as I love to listen to music now and then but I do appreciate silence where I can think. It comforting to have control of the noise around us but when the noise is imposed on us, it can be maddening... For your own sanity you might have to invest in a good noise cancelling headphone.
    Hugs, Julia

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  5. Cheers Julia.

    We should have a quiet room. Or the noisy culprits be made to buy their own headphones.

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    1. The problem is thatt whenever I think of something good , they think of a reason why it won't work.

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  6. Perhaps invest in a pair of silencing headphones (or whatever they are called).
    I think the only place that there is no noise is out in the middle of the forest or a field in the country but then you can hear the wind and the birds and the insects.
    And be glad you can hear at all..... my dad lost his hearing at a young age.

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    1. I like the idea of a field in the country.

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  7. I'm sorry to hear that. I have to wear foam ear plugs at night in order to sleep because of all the noise around here. I live just on the other side of a tall wall from the freeway. The neighbors always seem to come out in the street at 2am to argue and the stray cats that scream and fight under my window is rather annoying. Sorry there's no place to get away from the noise? The people that run the place won't make the others stay quiet if you complain?

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    1. One of the carers suggested having a push-button lock on the door. It was for something unrelated. They thought the idea was too pricey even though they'd spent a fortune having the red room converted .

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  8. That is awful. Every place should offer spaces where you can enjoy silence. We all need moments away from noise pollution.

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    1. We all need a quiet room where we can go to get some quiet.

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  9. That does sound like torture but on the other hand constant silence can be deafening too.

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    1. Some people prefer the quiet. Like me, for instance.

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  10. I'm in agreement with you. At least once in a while we need time to think and be without others intruding. I like to walk with a headset and a podcast on. I know it's not silence, but this might at least block out the noise of the others.

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    1. I like it when people agree with me. It doesn't happen very often.

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  11. I feel for you ... constant noise eats away at me also. Your very last sentence is a perfect summing up of the problem. As for a solution, if they won't designate a quiet room there, all I can think to suggest is what others have done already - either earplugs or noise cancelling earphones. Or for something that you don't have to put in or over your ears, perhaps a white noise machine or a regular electric fan for your room. It may help to cover the other noises yet not drive you mad. I'm sorry you have to deal with this issue on top of everything else.

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  12. That is awful. I think every place should offer spaces where you can enjoy silence, and I am sorry you are having to live with this issue.
    Like others have suggested perhaps ear plugs may help.

    All the best Jan

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    1. I'll have to look into the idea of ear plugs.

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  13. Oh, dear...that is terrible. I would be driven crazy within the hour...crazier than I already am!

    Ear plugs seem the only way out for you.

    I love the sound of silence. Unnecessary noise is unnecessary!!!!

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    1. Absolutely. Everyone should have the right to a bit of silence.

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  14. I can only read when I have silence. Often I get in the car and drive to a country lay-by just to read. I sympathise with you regarding the noise you are expected to tolerate. Silence truly is golden.

    How about some chunky headphones and some peaceful CDs - the sea, country hedgerows or gentle classical music? Though not silent they could drown out the other unwelcome noises.

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    1. I much prefer the idea of sitting in the garden than wearing some chunky headphones.

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  15. Oh this is quite scary Treey!


    Where we lived previously our neighbors used to play music loud from morning till night .
    i basically belong to village where i used to hear the discussions of gentle breeze with waving leaves or songs of birds.

    For 16 years i beard that non stop hearing violence but survived with it .
    i developed my FOCUSING skills gradually with little yoga technique and when we moved to our new house silence that existed here sounded as i stepped into a grave yard .

    But though i don't have a complete silence here but it does not matter for me anymore

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    1. I'm glad you have a better place to live in.

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  16. Hi Terry, that really sucks and I can't believe you are supposed to endure that. How can you concentrate on reading a book when there is so much noise? I can't stand hearing people and the noises they make, and they are so self-righteous as well. No wonder it makes you mad, you have the right to some kind of quiet area. I prefer the quiet as well, we never have music playing at home and when we watch something we watch together. If Alex plays music, he puts his headphones on and plugs his guitar into his computer so it doesn't upset the quiet of the house. We couldn't live with people noise anymore. Though there is still a bit too much of that going on here. The weekenders blasting their car music as they pull up to their rentals at all hours of the day and night, for example. I'd much rather the crows and Blue Jays wake me up at 5am than the sound of my beer-gutted neighbour mowing his lawn while listening to "hit" radio in french every Saturday morning. I sound grumpy today lol...lack of sleep I guess! :)

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    1. hi Rain,

      That made me lol. I know you've had a lot to put up with recently. I really hope things are going well for you because I like your blogposts and you cheer me up a lot. You have the will to win and I look forward to hearing from you.

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  17. Trains have quiet carriages and that's just for people on an hour or two commute! How much more important for people who can never get away!

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